Mommy needs quiet time

Definition of QUIET TIME: It’s the time when Mommy’s blood is turned down to simmer.

I am a mother of a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old special needs child. I also suffer from CD, so quiet time, for me, is a must. Every home/family is different, but reading this will show you how important it is for you and your child to have quiet time, and how you can accomplish it. Use that time to do whatever your heart desires. Get some rest, watch some TV, or read. Whatever, but this is YOUR time. HAPPY QUIET TIME!

First of all, just because you are feeling in desperate need of quiet time, does not mean you are a bad parent. You need to let go of the guilt and realize that having a break is necessary because you can regain your patience. Have you noticed, some days with your kids just make you so impatient that you just automatically start answering “NO!” to everything? It time for a break… Children also need quiet time for them to relax and wind down a bit.

What is my strategy?

CONSISTENCY & ROUTINE…It is best to start training your kiddos as early as possible. I knew from early on, with my first child, that I had to establish a break for myself daily. Stick with your quiet time plan!

Most children refuse to take naps, but I make it inviting. I say something like “Lacie, you don’t need to take a nap, but you have to play quietly. Maybe do some puzzles or color?” Because my child is so used to this being a daily thing, she knows what quiet time means. I bring her into her room with a Sippy cup of water. I tell her to please play quietly so Mommy can rest. She knows the only reason she comes out of her room is to go potty or if something is wrong. Usually I will take this opportunity to take a cat nap. If she does end up needing the bathroom, she will stand at her door and yell “Mom can I go potty?” “NO!” Just kidding LOL.

Because my delayed son is so well-behaved, I can put him in his play pin for an hour with a few toys and he will be so happy!

I know Lacie is safe in her bedroom because it is childproofed. Plugs covered, windows locked etc…I know she is safe. Of course you wouldn’t want to do something stupid like stick ear plugs in to sleep, you need to be able to hear if anything happens while you are napping or relaxing. I am a very light sleeper but I also have a baby monitor hooked up to hear if she opens her door.

I hope you find this strategy helpful, please comment below if you have found other ways helpful! Thanks for reading! Please follow & share… 



Put your baby to bed, the right way…

Baby sleep solutions:

“Babe, can you please get up this time?” I am sure these are famous words by many of you parents out there, enduring through sleepless nights.

Enough is enough…time to put your baby to bed, the Right way…? There really is no RIGHT way…but here are a few ways to help the process.

Are they hungry?
After a baby turns 1, they normally don’t need to be fed during the night. If they are used to you giving them a snack during the night, they will most likely continue waking up expecting their snack. Try to feed them enough before bed. If they don’t have much of an appetite, try giving them a bottle of formula/milk before bed. If they wake up, give them a bottle of water. They will usually get upset. That is okay. They need to learn they will only get water during the night. They will no longer wake up hungry after a few nights of this routine. This is a personal tip. I did this with my daughter. She began sleeping through the night, 2 nights later. (of course this does not apply to children who are under weight, or sick)

Did the Pacifier fall out again?!
Don’t get me wrong, that first year with Paci is wonderful. They start fussing and “Boink!” In goes Paci and out goes fussy! There comes a time when saying bye bye to Paci is brilliant. When they start regularly waking up because they miss their Binkie, this would be a perfect reason to let go. Try the broken routine. Throw the Binkie in the trash. Show them, and say it’s broken. My mom actually did this with me, and it worked great so I did it with my daughter it worked like a charm. This seems to work about 80% of the time. What can you do if it’s broken? Hopefully they don’t question it…

White noise
I have used white noise with both my kids. It works perfect! Studies have found that white noise turned up too loud or too close could impact your child’s hearing. As long as the machine is placed across the room, and set to a moderate volume, I think you should be fine. Use your own judgment on this one. I have found it very helpful for my kids to sleep, and myself!

Have a simple routine
Remember that no mom is perfect. Your child doesn’t have to be bathed EVERY night. Unless you are a clean freak (I know a few!) Call me lazy all you want, but when your life is as chaotic as mine, priorities seem to be different lol. A warm bath can get them pretty tired but if you’re like me and just want to get them to bed here is my advice… Try to set a goal to have at least one regular routine that says it about time for bed. This could be reading a book, singing a soft lullaby, rubbing your kiddo down with lavender lotion, giving them some Benadryl (JUST KIDDING!) Just a signal that pushes them in the right direction.

Separation Anxiety
Every parent is different. If you want your children to sleep with you forever, fine! I, however, have never been able to sleep with my kids in my bed. For me to be a good mom, I need my sleep. If your child is learning to sleep in their crib/bed alone, obviously make sure you invest in a dim night light. Here is how to break this anxiety.

1st night: Put your baby in their crib while they are sleepy but still awake, and then sit in a chair next to them. If they get upset, softly pat her back and give verbal reassurance. Stair at the floor, read your own book, get on Pinterest (lower the brightness). Do not make eye contact. They will try to get your attention which will make the process longer. Do not leave until they are asleep.

2nd night: Move the chair to the middle of the room, again do not
make eye contact. Wait to leave until they are asleep.

3rd night: Move the chair to the door. Remember, no eye contact. Leave once they are asleep.

4th night: Keep the chair at the door but this time leave just before they are falling asleep.