Mommy needs quiet time

Definition of QUIET TIME: It’s the time when Mommy’s blood is turned down to simmer.

I am a mother of a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old special needs child. I also suffer from CD, so quiet time, for me, is a must. Every home/family is different, but reading this will show you how important it is for you and your child to have quiet time, and how you can accomplish it. Use that time to do whatever your heart desires. Get some rest, watch some TV, or read. Whatever, but this is YOUR time. HAPPY QUIET TIME!

First of all, just because you are feeling in desperate need of quiet time, does not mean you are a bad parent. You need to let go of the guilt and realize that having a break is necessary because you can regain your patience. Have you noticed, some days with your kids just make you so impatient that you just automatically start answering “NO!” to everything? It time for a break… Children also need quiet time for them to relax and wind down a bit.

What is my strategy?

CONSISTENCY & ROUTINE…It is best to start training your kiddos as early as possible. I knew from early on, with my first child, that I had to establish a break for myself daily. Stick with your quiet time plan!

Most children refuse to take naps, but I make it inviting. I say something like “Lacie, you don’t need to take a nap, but you have to play quietly. Maybe do some puzzles or color?” Because my child is so used to this being a daily thing, she knows what quiet time means. I bring her into her room with a Sippy cup of water. I tell her to please play quietly so Mommy can rest. She knows the only reason she comes out of her room is to go potty or if something is wrong. Usually I will take this opportunity to take a cat nap. If she does end up needing the bathroom, she will stand at her door and yell “Mom can I go potty?” “NO!” Just kidding LOL.

Because my delayed son is so well-behaved, I can put him in his play pin for an hour with a few toys and he will be so happy!

I know Lacie is safe in her bedroom because it is childproofed. Plugs covered, windows locked etc…I know she is safe. Of course you wouldn’t want to do something stupid like stick ear plugs in to sleep, you need to be able to hear if anything happens while you are napping or relaxing. I am a very light sleeper but I also have a baby monitor hooked up to hear if she opens her door.

I hope you find this strategy helpful, please comment below if you have found other ways helpful! Thanks for reading! Please follow & share… 

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How to find happiness after life hands your family lemons…

My family has definitely been handed a bunch of lemons but somehow we still pull through stronger than before. What is our secret? Read more to find out.

Get Fit. “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands. They just don’t!” -Legally Blonde

Quality Family Time. Obviously spending time with your family is a given, but even just sitting on your couch, watching, and enjoying every moment you have with your children or your loved ones, it can help you to feel pretty fulfilled and content. That what I find anyway…I love watching my husband play on the floor with my kids. It makes me feel so blessed that 1. I have a great husband. 2. He is a great dad. 3. My kids love him so much. + 10 Happiness

No TV Sunday. This is something that I have been trying to establish for my family. We have done this 3 times so far and we love it! Of course it gets irritating at times because when you get bored your first instinct is to turn a power button on, right? This is a great way to dedicate, again, Quality Family Time together. We do this usually on Sundays when my husband is off of work. We usually make a big breakfast and chat. We catch up and visit. + 10 Happiness

Outside Tuesday. It’s awesome how fast your mood can change just by stepping outside into the fresh air. Not that you are in a bad mood, calm down! LOL Pick a day as a family to go outside and do something fun. Go kick a ball around, or play Frisbee! + 10 Happiness

Hobbies. Either finding a hobby as an individual or as a family can be healing. I actually find coloring very therapeutic and calming. My daughter and I do this a lot, and puzzles. Finishing a project together is fun, and it teaches kids not to give up. +10 Happiness

Shut off the news! This one should be a no brainer… 90% of the time, the only things casted on the news is horrible, sad, depressing things. We know this world sucks, we don’t need to be reminded of this every day. My husband and I decided from day 1 of our marriage that we would not have cable. We don’t want to see all the poo this world offers. Everyone feels differently. If you do have cable, maybe you can choose not to watch the news for a while and see how you feel? + 10 Happiness

“I’m walking on the sunshine…” Vitamin D is essential for happiness. If you live in an area where it rains often, you may want to look into Vitamin D supplements, but if the sun is out then you need to get out! +10 Happiness

Unplug yourself. Try living in the moment rather than trying to tweet pictures of every constant thing you see. One person wrote “The concept of always being reachable without any way to escape has become commonplace in our new digital society.” That is a scary thought. Not being able to escape. If you think about it, it’s true! You become so attached to electronics and networks that you feel compelled to check every few minutes if you have a text or voice mail. I find myself clicking that top little bottom of my iPhone consistently. On a day that I can’t find my phone (which happens too often) I feel relieved. It feels nice to not be reachable. You should try it! + 10 Happiness

Do more for others. There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving. Maybe all you can do is call your grandparents. You will be surprised how happy they are to hear from you! I LOVE spending time with my great grandma (Yes she is still alive and full of life). I paint her nails, and take her shopping. I have so much fun with her because I know it means a lot to her. Of course my first choice wouldn’t be to spend my afternoon in the petite older ladies section of JC Penny’s. LOL. I have so much joy in finding her cute outfits to try on. Even if your circumstances are different, you could try fostering an animal who needs love, or just simply go out of your way to bring someone you love some flowers or write a “thinking of you” card. +20 Happiness

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Hospital Freebies!

WARNING: I will come off as a cheap skate in this article!

Since my son was born, we have been in the hospital too many times to count. Everyone of those times we came home with double the luggage. Conner (our son) has had issue after issue. Seizures, heart block, feeding tube surgery, pace maker surgery…lots of things, pretty minor. Usually the nurses ( the nice ones, lol) will send you home with plenty of supplies. I NEVER turn down freebies. I’m sorry but my child already is expensive, I would appreciate saving money where ever I can 🙂 Here is a list of freebies I have received from my sons hospital stays, and my uses for them. Enjoy!

– Gloves ( I use these to clean up puke, daily… yeah I hate life some days)
– Syringes ( I use daily for dispensing medicine )
– Extra feeding bags ( G-tube fed, you can never have enough! )
– Thermometer ( Always smart to have extras )
– Diapers and wipes ( No brainer… )
– Donated blanket or stuffed animal ( Cute )
– Comb ( To tease my own hair, LOL! )
– Lotion ( Just because )
– Aqua-for ( Conners lips are always chapped)
– Face masks ( Germ protection)
– Medical tape ( You never know)
– Gauze pads ( G tube site)
– Adhesive remover pads and spray
( Because corners biggest fear is bandages)
– Baby soap and lotion ( Just because)

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Never neglect date nights again

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“I’m too tired, let just stay home tonight” I say this all too often. We become so wiped out with trying to have a good life and that we actually forget to have… a GOOD LIFE! It’s time to shape up, get up, dress up, and go out…

Keeping your date nights a necessity will keep your marriage strong. What do you think happens when the husband and wife work all day, spend their days apart, and even when they are home, they are on separate ends of the house busy doing different things? They forget who their spouse is, they can even forget who they are as themselves. Whether you have kids or don’t, you will always find something to distract you and take your time away from your spouse. This I promise.

Schedule.

Sit down with your husband and look at each other’s schedules. Put date night down in pen! Don’t let anything come up.There’s nothing more disappointing that receiving a phone call from your husband at work… “Hey, Bill needs my help doing something tonight so maybe we can schedule our date for another day” No! If you MUST reschedule, sit down right then and reschedule it. Your spouse should ALWAYS come before your friends.

Don’t resent your kids.

Make sure you have a baby sitter scheduled to watch your kids. Always have a back up sitter if they cancel. Otherwise you may spend your evening at home resenting your kids. How awful is that?! lol

Save Money.

Dates these days are expensive! Our local movie theatre is $10 a ticket. Then you have to add up all of the snacks and drinks (Pshhh… I don’t sneak in dollar store snacks…..I don’t know what you’re talking about…) Check your area for a dollar theatre. Try to find a restaurant that offers 2 entrées for $20. Apple Bee’s has awesome deals for date night! Don’t just say “Oh we don’t have the money” You have to put forth SOME effort! Look online for local deals and discounts! Here is the link to your local movie times, hope you find something good to go see 🙂  http://www.fandango.com/

Save up.

Like I said before, dates can be expensive. If you are wanting to do just a simple nice date or something more elaborate, then you might have to start saving for either plan. Never just plan on “having” the money. I want you to go get an envelope right now…go do it….NOW! lol. Now grab a marker. Write on the back, “Date Night”. Inside of this envelope you will put in $5 – $20 per paycheck. Let’s say you and your spouse get paid twice a month each. Even if you just put in $5 a pay check that comes out to $20 by the end of the month. Go have some drinks somewhere!

Date ideas. 

Pack a Picnic. Rent a paddle boat for the afternoon. Mini Golf. Bowling. Poker night. Roller skating. Spontaneously get in your car and drive nowhere in particular, and spend the day there. Take your spouse to test drive their dream car. Go for a Hike. Sunset picnic. Attend a concert. Play pool together or against another couple. Movie Marathon. Make your own fire pit together and roast marshmallow’s. Camp in your back yard. Board Games. Pick a series of movies and cuddle up with popcorn (Cheap, I like it….). Take your husband to a brewery (I know mine would LOVE that). Stroll through a farmers market.

Statistics.

The percentage of married individuals, over the age of 18, who respond that their marriages are “very happy” has gradually declined over the last four decades, though the numbers have leveled out in the past 20 years.  The most recent studies show that 63.1% of men and 60.7% of women classify their marriages as such. We have to remember to take our marriage seriously. Think about the reason you married them in the first place? Maybe you both have changed so much…even if that’s the case take that as an opportunity to rediscover each other.

“Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself; not what’s left over after you have given your best to everyone else”- Dave Willis

7 benefits you didn’t know about having Pets

You have heard the term “ An apple a day will keep the doctor away…” Is it true a pet a day will keep the doctor away?

I have ALWAYS been a huge animal lover. After my traumatic pregnancy with our son, that is when I really found that out about myself. I have a Dog named Jack, he is a black lab pit mix. Then we have our little kitty Wendy. There are so many benefits to having animals and most of those benefits people aren’t aware of. Take a look!

Immunity: Children who live with Dogs or Kitty’s from infancy or less likely to develop animal allergies later in life or asthma. Though it is not certain but researchers suspect that early exposure to pet allergens can actually help the immune system. It could help your child build up an immunity. How awesome is that! Better start that back yard Zoo you always dreamed of!

Therapy: What is pet therapy? The use of trained animals and handlers to achieve specific physical, social, cognitive, and emotional goals with patients; also called animal-assisted therapy or AAT. Pet therapy has been known to lessen depression, anxiety and fatigue. My son Conner and our dog Jack are best pals. When Conner began having a seizure one day we laid him next to Jack. The fur and emotion for Jack helped Conner come out of his seizure quicker. I have seen firsthand what the power of animal connection can do.

Blood Pressure: Did you know that just by petting your cat or dog, you can lower your blood pressure Cholesterol? Researchers looked at nearly 4,500 adults and found that cat ownership was related to a 40 percent lower risk of suffering a fatal heart attack.

Love Connection: Forget dating sites just take your dog for a walk! Dogs are great conversation starters. This can really help ease people out of social isolation or shyness, The conversation can stay grounded at the dog or it can turn into “I do” who knows…lol. Hasn’t anyone seen 101 Dalmatians???

Weight watcher: A research was done with 2,000 adults. The adults who owned a dog were much less likely to become obese because they felt more motivated to walk their dog. We all could you a little motivation right?

Mental Security: Just knowing that you have a dog that barks is enough to help you fall into a good deep sleep. I have found myself scared and nervous when my dog isn’t with me at night for one reason or another.

Service: For the disabled, or mentally challenged, having an animal to help guide them or service them in some way is just amazing. Dogs can be trained to sense seizures, sense an autistic melt down, help an elderly person who has fallen or is lost. There are so many things animals are capable of doing. It is just incredible.

Such a large majority or animals are killed everyday because of animal shelters being over crowded. How sad it is to think about what great benefits these animals can bring, and they are being killed because nobody wants them. I am a huge advocate for rescue animals!

I think its time you head down to your local animal shelter and adopt, dont you?

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5 seizure triggers you haven’t thought of…

5 seizure triggers you haven’t thought of…

Seizure: “A seizure is the physical findings or changes in behavior that occur after an episode of abnormal electrical activity in the brain. The term “seizure” is often used interchangeably with “convulsion.” Convulsions are when a person’s body shakes rapidly and uncontrollably.”

One in 26 people in the United States will develop epilepsy at some point in their lifetime.

Are there things that you can avoid for yourself or a loved one who suffers from seizures? YES!

  1. Sounds.I have found that a lot of people complain of sudden, or loud sounds triggering a seizure. I know this is true because if things get too loud around my son he becomes overwhelmed and ends up having seizures. I resorted to buying my son headphone to block out sound. Here is the link to buy a pair for a child. This is the same pair Conner has that he wears every day. http://funandfunction.com/noise-reduction-ear-muff.html
  2. Extreme temperatures have been made known to actually make seizures come on. We live in a valley and during the Summer it can become extremely hot. Some people have noticed that either very hot or very cold atmosphere can trigger seizures. Have you found this relatable? Maybe try to stay out of that crazy weather silly! J
  3. Light Fixtures. Obviously the most common trigger you have heard or noticed is flashing lights, but did you know fluorescent lighting flashes so fast you can’t realize it but your eyes see it! You will find fluorescent lighting in a lot of stores and businesses. Obviously this is hard to avoid. We got our son special tinted glasses. The effectiveness of wearing a tinted lens depends on both the color of the lens as well as the intensity of the hue of the lens (and therefore the light transmission).  Several studies show that blue-tinted lenses may help reduce the photoparoxysmal response…thereby reducing the number of seizures.  Some patients and their doctors may not realize that this tint can be worn in a contact lens instead of in spectacle lenses. Have your ophthalmologist test your pupils with different shaded colors. Conner’s most effective color is brown/red.
  4. Over Stimulation. Putting more stress on a person with epilepsy can cause seizures for sure. My son will most likely have autism, so he hates water. Whenever I give him a bath he gets stressed and seizes. He is G-tube fed, so whenever I try to feed him by mouth he gets nervous. I try to do everything calmly and slowly ease him into it. The key is to keep track of what triggers the seizures. Everyone is different.
  5. Strong Scents. A year ago my son was relaxing and my daughter came into the living room and sprayed an air freshener. He instantly went into a grand mal seizure. From that point on we have been very careful to never have anything smelly around him. Sometimes it is unavoidable. People wear perfume, or you go into people’s homes and they have plug in’s on every wall…If you seem this may be I have found that if you MUST have smell good things around try essential oils. I have found that these all natural scent’s don’t affect our son! http://www.doterra.com/#/en/ourProducts/essentialOils/singleOils

Please share with me your thoughts and triggers you have found!

Get your doctor to listen to you!

How to make your child’s doctor listen to you!

1st : VIDEO TAPE (If possible) what your child is doing.

For example, if you suspect any of the following, try your best to capture it on video.

Autistic features, seizure activity, pain, loss of coordination, or anything that is visual.

Bringing only your words to the table when the doctor asks, “What going on?” You might as well be walking into a courtroom without evidence! Keep a recording device on you at all times so it’s ready to go when you notice the change.

This is based on personal experience. When my son began having Infantile Spam’s. I brought him to his pediatrician, I told him what I was seeing. He said “Kids do funny things sometimes”. I knew he was wrong. So very wise advice was given to me by another TSC mom. “Video your son having his spasms” she said, and so I did. Doing this made the world of difference. We drove our son to the city and showed every doctor that came in to see him, the videos. As I thought, Conner was then admitted and diagnosed with Infantile Spasms. TRUST YOUR GUT!

2nd : JOURNAL your heart out. Keeping a log of your child’s activity is important. When the doctor asks you “When did that begin?” “How often?” “How long does it last?” Questions like these can be referred back to your journal which makes it a whole lot easier. Instead of just sitting there and saying “Oh I don’t remember…” It is amazing how much they appreciate your seriousness of your child’s care. They respect your efforts so they know that you will be expecting the same effort from them!

3rd : MEDICAL BINDER’s are very helpful. You can make your own or ask your resource center if there are programs that provide you one for free. Conner’s binder consists of Medication lists, dates of surgery, clinic notes, MRI and CT scan disks, and lots of other important information. I don’t know about you, but I hate being asked the same question a million times. My son’s binder has become my best friend. The first thing I do is hand them his binder. I hand it to his pediatrician, the ER nurses etc…All they have to do is make copies of what information they need to obtain.

4th : RESEARCH. I know the internet can be scary and some of you may disagree with me, but I have found researching my son’s symptoms, extremely helpful. The stories you find of other parents could possibly save your child’s life. When Conner was on ACTH (Steroid for Infantile Spasms) it began making his tumors in his heart grow! Thought the big city hospital never heard of such a thing. I printed out what I found and brought it to their attention. They quickly ordered an ECHO, long and behold, I was right. They immediately stopped his medication. Who knows what would have happened if they didn’t believe me.

I hope you have found this helpful. Please contact me if you are having difficulties communicating with your doctor. Remember that the doctor will only be as polite as you are to them. So only be stern when you feel the need to be. Again…trust your gut, you are usually right. Yes some of us may be looked at as “Paranoid”, but my motto is, ”It’s better to be safe than sorry!”

Here is a link to a video I took of Conner’s weird symptoms. I already knew they were Infantile Spasms, the beginning diagnosis was Multifocal seizures but they transformed into IS a month later.

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=457172697667480&set=vb.431526783565405&type=3&theater#

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